I was talking to my husband yesterday about marriage. There’s always people who say that they have the secret to a long and lasting marriage. I guess there are many things you can do to make your marriage last. However, I don’t think we have a secret. Both of us knew when we entered into our marriage that it was going to be a struggle and difficult at times. We knew that at some points we were going to argue and feel hate for one another. However, we also both knew that it was forever. When we stood before God, our family, and friends, we made a vow that we weren’t going to ever break. It wasn’t an option to walk away. and it never will be.
I’ve thought about it a lot. Even if something catastrophic were to happen, I still wouldn’t break that vow. Even if he started to hit me, I would protect myself, but I wouldn’t divorce him. However, if it silly to think about those catastrophic things because I know he wouldn’t do those things. Yet even if something horrible happened to him, I would stick by his side, sickness and health. I have faith in our marriage. That faith lives inside of me and it’s something that no one can take away.
So maybe, yes, I do have a secret to marriage. My marriage isn’t just my husband and me. My marriage is a union that was created with God, my husband, and me. I didn’t get married at a courthouse by a justice of the peace. I got married by a priest in a church. I invited God to be part of my marriage and to walk away from my marriage would be like turning my back on God somehow. I have built a life with my husband, but it is centered in God. We aren’t the most religious people, but God is a huge part of our lives. We pray. We thank God for our blessings. We know that we wouldn’t have anything without Him.
The faith I have in our marriage is very much the same faith I have in God. I can’t prove it. I can’t show anyone that it exists. I just know that it does, and I believe in it. There’s no one in the world that can destroy my faith in it. I know that just as I carry the light of God in my heart, I will carry the love of my husband in my heart forever. I don’t know how it works. I just know that he is my soulmate and that somehow he is the one who completes me. I thank God every day for him and that I found him.
My faith saved me. May God’s peace reside in all of our hearts.
